The "S" Word


It’s almost the end of January and we’re back in the full swing of things. Does life feel like it’s being played in fast-forward? The universe is giving us a lot of momentum and support right now for our creative endeavors with all the planets in forward motion.

It's a great time to really flex our creative powers and advance ourselves towards realizing our dreams.  However, at the same time, in a high achieving mentality, it’s easy to get caught up in "over-doing”. We can easily find ourselves in a more demanding pace, focused on efficiency and checklists that more often than not, become draining on all levels. 

In fact, when we are in high-productivity mode, there’s a common tendency to become more impatient with people, life, and processes.  Anything that slows us down from accomplishing our task at hand feels like a barrier between us and feeling validated and ultimately worthy as a human being.
So what is the significance of Impatience? And how is it serving our soul’s growth? There is a  bigger piece here and it’s connected to one of the greatest spiritual lessons of our lives…

Learning to Surrender (the “S” word) 

The grip of control runs deep in so many of us.  As powerful creators, we know we can achieve results by focusing energy, working hard, and even sometimes forcing things.  It’s in this illusion of control that we believe we create our lives.  The moments of having to wait on people, life and processes (both internal and external) give us with the opportunity to let go of control and to surrender to the present moment and our feelings.  We must ask ourselves if the fleeting and intermittent payoff of feeling “in control” is worth our peace of mind, our health, and our emotional well-being.  The answer is, it never is!

Furthermore, impatience shows us the resistance we have to accepting our lives as they are.  It reflects an internal line of energy that wants to control the timing and circumstances of our experience.  Being impatient goes against the flow of life and blocks our state of peace. It causes internal imbalance versus trusting that everything is in divine order and happening in divine timing. 

Alternatively, patience is an enlightening virtue that brings us out of victim mentality and into an empowerment state where we make better choices, have higher tolerance for the people we love, and become aware of the nuances of any situation. It takes time to cultivate patience and is built on a strong foundation of Surrender.

In Eckhart Tolle’s wise words from his book The Power of Now, “Don't look for peace. Don't look for any other state than the one you are in now; otherwise, you will set up inner conflict and unconscious resistance. Forgive yourself for not being at peace. The moment you completely accept your non-peace, your non-peace becomes transmuted into peace. Anything you accept fully will get you there, will take you into peace. This is the miracle of surrender.”

Busy time is a perfect time to work with the concept of Surrender in your life. Here are a couple ways that will guide you in this process and ultimately help you attain a more peaceful, and just as productive, state of being.

1.     Working in the Mental Realm:
Notice if you’re in a state of “over-doing”, perfectionism, or control.  Name the judgments you’re having about the situation. Are they an accurate representation of the truth of the situation? Are you willing to release these and the resistance that comes with them and move into neutrality?

2.     Working in the Emotional Realm:
Slow it down.  Become present to your feelings and to your experience.  It’s in the acceptance of the present moment that we heal ourselves.  Name the feelings that you are experiencing and allow them to just “be”. Apply compassion to yourself, others, and the situation as you consciously practice to surrender control in the moment. Soon after, try to find some time to write about the experience and let your feelings be fully expressed. This integrative process will help you to build internal intimacy and develop trust and wisdom around your own resources. Over time you will build a level of self-love and self-trust to the point where you won’t need to be over-achieving in order to feel good enough.

Transforming consciousness is a process and also holds a golden opportunity to demonstrate the ultimate surrender as we swim in the deeper waters of the subconscious mind. But bit by bit, we heal and we grow and we elevate our perspective to a place we know exists but we haven’t experienced before. This is why we do the work in consciousness and I’m sending much love and light to your transformation.